Deacon Stu Dobson’s Reflection
August 27, 2021
Friday August 27, 2021, 21st week in Ordinary Time
Feast of St Monica
1 Thes 4:1-8, Ps 97:1-2b,5-6,10-12, Mt 25:1-13
Today we celebrate the feast of St Monica, the mother of St Augustine. It’s too bad we do not have Mass here at St James tomorrow morning as it would be a wonderful continuation of St Monica to celebrate the feast of her son, St Augustine. So, as you hear about St Monica today, know that it is part 1 of a 2-part series. You will have to do your own research on St Augustine, but I am sure you will find abundant information on him. St Monica’s information is a little sparse as we mostly hear about her through her son in his book, “Confessions.” Get a copy of that book and read it, I highly recommend it not only for her story, but on St Augustine’s spirituality and how it can help you today.
St Monica was born in 332 in the North African city of Tagaste in what is now Algeria. I found the following depiction of her life on a Franciscan website, and I thought it appropriate to share it with you today.
The circumstances of St. Monica’s life could have made her a nagging wife, a bitter daughter-in-law, and a despairing parent, yet she did not give way to any of these temptations. Although she was a Christian, her parents gave her in marriage to a pagan, Patricius, who lived in her hometown of Tagaste in North Africa. Patricius had some redeeming features, but he had a violent temper and was licentious. Monica also had to bear with a cantankerous mother-in-law who lived in her home. Patricius criticized his wife because of her charity and piety, but always respected her. Monica’s prayers and example finally won her husband and mother-in-law to Christianity. Her husband died in 371, one year after his baptism.
Monica had at least three children who survived infancy. The oldest, Augustine, is the most famous. At the time of his father’s death, Augustine was 17 and a rhetoric student in Carthage. Monica was distressed to learn that her son had accepted the Manichean heresy—”all flesh is evil”—and was living an immoral life. For a while, she refused to let him eat or sleep in her house. Then one night she had a vision that assured her Augustine would return to the faith. From that time on, she stayed close to her son, praying, and fasting for him. In fact, she often stayed much closer than Augustine wanted.
When he was 29, Augustine decided to go to Rome to teach rhetoric. Monica was determined to go along. One night he told his mother that he was going to the dock to say goodbye to a friend. Instead, he set sail for Rome. Monica was heartbroken when she learned of Augustine’s trick, but she still followed him. She arrived in Rome only to find that he had left for Milan. Although travel was difficult, Monica pursued him to Milan.
In Milan, Augustine came under the influence of the Bishop, St. Ambrose, who also became Monica’s spiritual director. She accepted his advice in everything and had the humility to give up some practices that had become second nature to her. Monica became a leader of the devout women in Milan as she had been in Tagaste.
She continued her prayers for Augustine during his years of instruction. At Easter 387, St. Ambrose baptized Augustine and several of his friends. Soon after, his party left for Africa. Although no one else was aware of it, Monica knew her life was near the end. She told Augustine, “Son, nothing in this world now affords me delight. I do not know what there is now left for me to do or why I am still here, all my hopes in this world being now fulfilled.” She became ill shortly after and suffered severely for nine days before her death at age 55.
For us, St. Monica is a model of patience. Her long years of prayer, coupled with a strong, well-disciplined character, finally led to the conversion of her hot-tempered husband, her cantankerous mother-in-law and her brilliant but wayward son, Augustine.
St. Monica is also the Patron Saint of Alcoholics, Conversions, Mothers and Wives.
St Monica, pray for us.